Do’s And Don’ts Pending Your Suit

While a divorce or custody suit is pending, please be advised of some things to DO and NOT DO (provisions regarding property are normally only associated with divorce suits):

  • Do not hide things from your attorney.
  • Do not post things on any social media outlet that can later be used against you.
  • Do not post any information about your divorce on a social media site.
  • Do change your passwords to your email accounts and social media sites.
  • Do not send mean, rude, etc., emails, texts or messages to your spouse.
  • Do not buy any real estate while a divorce is pending.
  • Do not buy any extravagant item while a divorce is pending.
  • Do not sell property without the court's permission.
  • Do not increase your debt while a divorce is pending.
  • Do not give huge contributions to anyone while a divorce is pending.
  • Do disclose all assets and liabilities when filling out your inventory.
  • Do be aware of the household budget and expenses.
  • Do examine your own credit history and get a credit report.
  • Do collect your last two tax returns, real estate deeds and mortgage documents.
  • Do know the total balance on joint checking and savings bank accounts.
  • Do know the balance on your retirement plans, 401(k), pension plan, etc.
  • Do collect a copy of your spouse's last two pay check stubs.
  • Do seek a CPA or accountant to review the tax implications of a divorce.
  • Do seek help for alcohol or unlawful substance abuse.
  • Do not discuss the suit with your children.
  • Do not use your children as intermediaries.
  • Do not criticize your spouse in front of your children.
  • Do not remove children from their current school.
  • Do keep a journal with you to write down the exchange and pick up of the children.
  • Do not start another romantic relationship.
  • Do not bring your new significant other around your children.
  • Do not bring your new significant other to court hearings.
  • Do not get pregnant or get anyone pregnant.
  • Do keep copies of any monies paid to your spouse.
  • Do pay your child support on time.
  • Do not withhold visitation from your spouse for lack of child support payments.
  • Do not move out of state with your children.
  • Do co-parent with your spouse.
  • Do comply with court-ordered injunctions and restrictions.

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